Ever since I hit 29.5 i've been trying to figure out whats going on with my life.. Ive purchased countless books, sought out mentors in my life and have googled every blog and life coach I could find and somehow through it all i'm still lost.. However I have realized that I am the one others come to, to seek out guidance. I sat in my office for countless hours on many days helping other people figure out their lives, consoling fears and reassuring them that life will get better, that things will be ok and that God has a plan for them.. Yet i'm still trying to figure out what that plan is for myself..
In the last couple of months, I have helped people with relationship issues, assisted in job searches, consoled hurt feelings and helped mend broken friendships. Yet i'm single, in a job that doesn't make me happy and struggle with friendships myself.. How is it that I can seem to do these things for everyone but myself?
So what I have decided to do is shift my focus.. If I have all this energy to give to others I need to shift that energy to myself. I need to make a plan and stick to it, and sometimes its best to stick to a plan when you tell someone about it. This is me telling YOU my plan! Of course this is in no particular order.
1st- I will seek out people that can help me.. I have already sought out someone professionally now I need someone personally and spiritually that can help me get to where I need to be.
2nd- I will spend dedicated time in cultivating my dreams. I need to stop be lazy and thinking things will just fall into place. I found a great quote that made me realize that the first step to making things better is for me to move. "The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are. -J. Pierpont Morgan"
3rd- I will make an actual dream board (I currently have a virtual one) and will try to do at least two things a month that will help me achieve those dreams.
4th- I will stop pushing people away.. I tend to push before I can be pushed. Its a way of helping me protect myself but its really pushing away people who could likely be key people in my life. I may have shut out the love of my life because of one thing he said that made me give side eyes..
5th- I will tap into my strengths.. I know what Im good at and somehow I don't play up those things. That means I will stop putting off blog post, I will Yelp more, I will continue to encourage others, I will plan for the future, I will cook more, my work will improve, I will continue to be social.. Overall I will just do MORE and be BETTER at the things I already know I do well.
I guess the overall theme here is I need to do more for ME.. It doesn't mean I cant do for others, I just need to put more of my effort into making sure i'm good! Here's to life getting better- Per the current book im reading "You're going to be okay" I need to start putting more faith in God, He has a plan for me and doesn't plan on giving up on me, so I cant give up on myself..